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Visions, Validations, and Victories.

Visions, Validations, and Victories.

Sure. Running is a HUGE part of my life. But it’s not the only aspect of my life. Believe it our not, I want other things in my life too.

When my head hits the pillow at night, it fills of the things I have to do. When i close my eyes, I begin to escape the day. And at THAT moment, BEFORE my conscious mind closes and i reach the optimal REM sleep…THAT is the moment when visions are conceived. Creating them, the concept, the idea, the travel plan, the family moment is easy, capturing them and holding onto them with the promise of not letting it slip away from me…?? well, that’s the hard part.

How do you remind yourself of the things that are important to you? How do you keep your vision forefront? How do you allow yourself the time, the focus, the dedication to validate your visions? How do you turn them into victories? In a world where negative forces will tweek their way into your life every day…every…day. How do you “live”the life you want?.

This year, i’ve joined the world of hokie-ness and day dreamers. I’ve created a vision board. Its not fancy. Its not pretty. It’s just a little bit of me, on a burlap board. I am going to live 2014 in a belief that if i can vision it, it will be true. I will hang reminders, and mantras, and tokens of things i seek, i wish, i love. A year long arts and craft project about  me.

ImageTo this day, i have four items. Jillian Michaels, Mt Rushmore, a promise of a new goal, and a mantra for life. At the center of my board hangs a lace heart i pulled off a christmas card from my husband. It’s a symbol, that at the center of all things your heart must be in it. Every item on my board, validates my vision. For example, the JM photo is not there because of her fitness. It is for her clear mind, her acceptance of her past, and her strength. Sure, i would love to wake tomorrow and look like her, but hey, its vision board not a magic wand!

The other day, i stood with my daughter admiring my board. Pondering the items i placed in its care. She asked me to construct a board for her. A place where she could have goals and dreams. WOW. Validation! She believes in my board! (Nothing is cooler in this world then when your 8 year old “gets” you. “Gets” you on a level you didn’t expect. This one…she “gets” me.)

My girl, she is funny. I want to go to South Dakota, she wants a playdate to bake cookies. Truly her visions are on her level, not mine, so Imagewe produced a vision board more adapted to her. One that could celebrate victories weekly. One that she could see daily how her actions could produce her reward. Simple. Reward chart.

We selected several categories. Tasks she needed to do to insure her victory. Some were hard, she was going to work for it. (making her bed, cleaning her playroom), but the others were mostly about her. Taking time for herself..and being rewarded for it. Validation of who you are! Validation of who you want to be! (sing, play her songs, read a book, and write in her journal) She is doing very well with her board, and at the end of the week, VICTORY! She is allowed the activity she chose for the week. She is setting precedent now, for her future. She is learning to “live” the life she wants and how to get it. I love her.

As the ice cold winter in New Jersey slowly begins its defrost. As spring running races are coming closer and promises of new experiences, better race times are on my mind. I am excited months that lie ahead. Vision. Validate. Victory.

I am kicking off my first half marathon of 2014 this weekend in New York! The Central Park Half Marathon is put on by NYCRuns and promises to be a chilly but fun event. I have 18 club members joining me in celebration of one of my marathon partners, Kelley’s Birthday. Due to all the ice, alot of our group have not seen each other in a while. Everyone has taken to treadmill running, the gym, and just running at any moment when the thermometer hits over 30 degrees. (not often) so, we are  feeling like this will be a “fun” run, not a PR run. (and NOT what we visioned when we all registered! hahaha!)

Im ok with that. I mean really, I love these girls. I would rather spend the 13.1 miles chatting it up then chasing them down anyway!


Kelley and I. Marine Corps Marathon 10/27/13

So Happy Birthday Kelley! This one is for you babes.

“Run Like It’s Your Birthday”

Run Jersey Strong,



When It Hurts-Stages of Runner’s Grief

When It Hurts-Stages of Runner’s Grief

My first 5k, 6/2011. Look at how new and white my shoes are!

I started running in April 2011. I never ran in my life. I was going through a rough patch, and i needed a mental escape. I started by taking walks, and then a light jog, and then a loop, a mile, and then my goal 5k. I completed my second marathon this past October, life is good, but i still enjoy the escape. It keeps my feet light, brings me perspective, and allows me to be me.

When i began, I only knew 2 people who ran. I had seen people on the treadmill and a few on the streets but didn’t really know anyone who ran, not the way I wanted to run. So, i did alot of reading. I read all the warnings and horrible things that could happen, wrong socks give you blisters, run too fast you’ll get shin splints. I believe your head could spin off with all of the information on the internet when you google search “running”.

Along the way, ive also google searched,, and web md,’d every ache pain and mystery symptom related to running. Ive googled every remedy, homeopathic, holistic, pharmaceutical, surgical and experimental. I have sat up late nights comparing my pains, deciding if they are just pain, or if I should start calling myself “injured”. Debating sitting out, slowing down, crying and quitting. Most times, the pain subsides, the swelling goes down, i have a great run and its done. Like dodging a bullet, relieved, i carry on.

Lately, ive been injured. And worse than the actual injury itself, is the mental unpreparedness over the series of emotions you go through, when it hurts.

I’ve decided to break it down. Kind of like the phases of grief with less crying. (I hope) So, if you are injured, read along and together we will find our way through this physically and emotionally painful time.

Image1. Denial– That little tweak, that pain, that moment going up the steps feels..uhm. funny. You can’t put your finger on it, you may even blame it on anything BUT running. Maybe it doesn’t hurt enough to stop.

When it hurts, you can’t believe it.

2. Anger/Despair– It hits you, it hurts, and now you are facing the fact that denying, your injury and ignoring your injury is sidelining you. You are mad at yourself, mad at not listening to your body, or others.

When it hurts. You could cry.

3. Envy– Your February issue of Runner’s world shows up on your step. Your friends are running, Your streets are suddenly filled with runners. New shoe lines are announced on facebook, race schedules are coming out. You are jealous. You are feeling left out.

When it hurts, You start to think about a back up plan.

4. Acceptance– Its time, youve tried everything. You have iced, foam rolled, rested. This is a euphoric stage. The sun comes out, you can see the total picture. You begin to realize that you don’t have to be injured forever.

When it hurts. You call the doctor.Image

5. Renewed Motivation– This stage is the hardest to get to. You have to dig deep. It has to be real, and you have to want it. You have been given all the information you need and the tools to heal. Whether it is rest, physical therapy, anti-inflammatories, or surgery. You are in recovery, The time has come to set a new goal. Maybe it’s a pain free mile, maybe it’s a marathon. Maybe it is a goal to prevent this injury ever again. But get there. Get motivated. Begin again.

When it hurts. You put that goal in marker on you calendar.

 6. Inspire– This is it. You feel good. You are light again. It is now time to share your story. Help others along. Ride next to them on the bike, or take a swim in the pool with them, Inspire someone through an injury, don’t let them get stuck in a phase alone. You were there. Be a friend, slow down.

When it hurts. You give her a hug and tell her she will be O.K.

I’m going in to spring season with a wacky hamstring/glute injury. It is from overuse. Yes. I knew it. and YES i knew I waited too long. I’m scaling back, I’m working on other things. I’m in phase 6. I got here. I’m staying. I will listen to my body, I will listen to my Dr., I will be better. Maybe I will be better than before.

I’ve got Three weeks until Central Park Half Marathon, NYC! I will be ready. My goal is not a P.R.(Personal Record), it’s a goal for a P.F. (Pain Free)

Run Jersey Strong,


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